The grass somehow always seems greener on the other side, doesn’t it?
Others always seem to waltz through life, while you… You struggle with your two left feet, taking the wrong steps, getting tangled in your own clothes, and once you feel like you finally know what you’re doing – you slip and fall.
But at that very moment, as you’re sitting on the ground, all sad and gloomy, the only way you can go from there is – up. However, there’s always something pulling you down; at times, it can be quite difficult to put a finger on it – The bills? A tough work situation? An endless to-do list? A fight with one of your close ones? Or is it all at once?
The moment you feel like you just want to curl up in your favorite blanket and spend the weekend as a sad sushi roll, you need someone to pick you up. And when that doesn’t work?
1. Find your mantra
If you can dream it, you can do it, said Mr. Disney. Motivational quotes are not just teenage Facebook cover photos; find the one that keeps you motivated, one that has the power to get you out of the bed in the morning and inspire you to work harder today than you did yesterday.
Put it on the ceiling above the bed, on a bathroom mirror, or on your front door, so that it’s the last thing you see on your way to work in the morning.
2. Get up and running
And we mean it literally. It doesn’t have to be a 6 o’clock morning jog – take baby steps: spend at least 30 minutes of the day (early in the day or late in the evening, it doesn’t really matter) doing some kind of physical activity.
Whether it is running, rollerblading or yoga, regular exercise of any kind will help you focus, keep your thinking, learning and judgment skills sharp. You’ll notice that you’ll be sleeping better, which will ultimately lower your risk of depression.
3. Get organized
When you feel a bit out of balance, like you’ve fallen out of your routine and your comfort zone, it is of utmost importance to regain control over your life. Easier said than done, right?
That’s what I told my psychologist back in Sydney, but then he made me sit down and fill in a calendar with the tasks I had to do that week, and advised me to do it for every other week.
In time, it kind of became a routine – every Monday morning I get up 15 minutes earlier to gather my thoughts and put all the tasks I had to finish for the day or week on paper.
With everything in one place, it was like I had my personal assistant who was there to support me every step of the way. Silly, I know, but trust me – that post-it note works wonders.
4. Know when to delegate…
Nevertheless, sometimes, even a set schedule couldn’t keep me on the right track. There are days when you have so much to do, it is not humanly possible; the more tasks pile up on the list, the less motivated you feel, and the more you want to just go back to bed and binge watch all 6 seasons of Game of Thrones. Thus, before you spiral down into the black hole of negative thoughts, start delegating – go through the list and exclude yourself from all the low-impact tasks that don’t really need your input and can be finished by one of your co-workers or a loved one.
… or work in a team
In some cases, you will have to be involved in a particular assignment, but even then you don’t have to do it all on your own. Some people will always make a competition out of it, but you can turn it into a group effort. By teaming up with your peers in order to reach a cumulative or individual goal, you will all, in a way, motivate each other with different ideas and points of views, all which will contribute to achieving fruitful results.
5. Dress to impress
Not others – yourself. There must be a little black dress and a pair of stilettos that make you feel like you can conquer the world.
Book an appointment at manicurist and hair stylist, set aside one entire day to pamper yourself, put on your favorite outfit and head out to grab a cocktail with your friends.
Even in the morning, before you head out to work, put on something red – a shirt, a blazer, or a piece of accessory, and feel this warm and positive color give you the power to successfully achieve all your goals for the day.
6. Enrich your personal library
When it all seems hopeless and you feel like no matter what you do, you’re doing it wrong, you can always go back to the books.
Whether it’s a challenging task at the office or a home project you’ve been working on, you can always check out if there are answers on Amazon. It’s full of helpful guides and the “…for Dummies” book series that teach you how to successfully complete a task at hand in an approachable manner.
7. Keep it real
Still, you have to remember that there will come a time when, for one reason or another, certain aspects of the goal you’ve set will be impossible to achieve, and some things will have to change. What you have to remember is that pivot is not a failure and that keeping things in the limits of your capabilities actually means you are giving your 100%. No, you should never sell yourself short, but at the same time, be careful not to set yourself up for failure.
What you have to remember is that pivot is not a failure and that keeping things in the limits of your capabilities actually means you are giving your 100%. No, you should never sell yourself short, but at the same time, be careful not to set yourself up for failure.
Yes, for some it does seem to be a waltz, but the truth is – the tango’s the only dance that can truly be used as a metaphor to describe these hectic lives we live.
In some moments nothing will seem possible, but a couple of daily hacks and words of reassurance can turn everything around. Just never leave anything for tomorrow; it’s a mystical, Narnian closet, where you will store all your productivity and motivation, and maybe never find it again.